Anne C. - Feb 13 2021
How The Self-Love Journal Transformed My Life
Photography by: Shelby Tessier Model: Alexandra Babbel
This year I turned 52, and I look it. That means I haven't had any work done to try and look younger.
I can remember the exact day I first looked in the mirror and thought, “gosh, you look old.” For years following, I tried to get on board with the aging thing, but it was always so hard for me. Almost every morning I discovered some small reminder that I am getting older: a sore knee, a new gray hair, added wrinkles to my eyes, joint pain in my hands, or a new wisp of gray in my (thinning) brows.
I was starting to resent my aging body. When my knee would ache or I’d have trouble fitting into my pants, I felt anger stir up in me and a fear I never had before. It felt like I was losing control of myself and the fundamentals of who I was.
I never had much self-confidence to begin with, and aging definitely wasn’t helping…
As I got older I found myself starting to doubt my abilities more and more. I think it’s because I could see how others treated me as if I was incapable and fragile, I started to see myself that way.
When I was younger I used to be adventurous, I used to take chances and never think twice about what others would think of me… I believed in myself and I was my own cheerleader.
“Change the way you think, and you’ll change the way you feel”
If you don’t love yourself, where does the motivation come from to take care of yourself?
This is why I didn’t keep up with exercising, or eating the way I was supposed to. In my mind, I was so far from “loveable” already, what does it matter if every meal was a “cheat meal”, or if I couldn’t remember the last time I did something active.
Then, on an airplane, before all this craziness we’re dealing with now…I read an article about the impact of positive thoughts on our health.
"Increased life span
Lower rates of depression
Lower levels of distress
Greater resistance to the common cold
Better psychological and physical well-being
Better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress”
I burst into tears.. I was on my way to bury my aunt, and something clicked.. I wasn’t extremely sad about her passing, but it occurred to me that she definitely wasn’t a positive person and she wasn’t very healthy. In that moment I started to see how my current path in life could lead me to become her, and that made me want to jump out of my seat.
I realized in that moment that I wasn’t treating myself the way I deserved to be treated. I needed to make a change, I didn’t know where to start, and I needed some help.
A few weeks later I came across The Digital Self-Love Journal by Switch, and I can honestly say -- it transformed my life.
They do have a hardcover version of the journal, but apparently it's almost always sold out! I opted for the digital version - that way I could use it on my iPad, or have it printed at a local print shop.
Now let me tell you…There are over 10,000 products out there that will show you how to “get your dream life” through the “power of visualization”...Discovering the Self-Love Journal was like finding a needle in a haystack. Here’s why I gravitated towards it:
Negative thought habits take years to form, and they don’t change overnight. The Self-Love Journal is a 91-day workbook for that reason, while it only takes 5-10 minutes a day, the consistency of learning and practice over 91-days is what remaps your brain, and fosters a lasting impact.
The Journal is divided into 3 distinct sections, Self-Kindness, Gratitude, and Compassion. Each day you’ll be provided with a lesson that will help you better understand how your mind works, so that you can take control of it. Next, you’ll be asked to either reflect on a specific question, or an activity to perform that day.
The Self-Love Journal is one of the only options I could find that is grounded in science, I wasn’t interested in opening chakras, chanting, or visualizing colors. I wanted a scientific solution that would help me uproot my negative thought patterns and teach me how to deal with them.
When I found out that this journal is being studied by multiple universities in Canada to understand it’s impact on a person's sense of self-worth, I felt confident that the lessons would be effective.
It’s been just over a year since I completed my 91-day Self-Love Journal...I still look through it every now and again and I’m astonished at how I used to think, some of my earlier answers seem like a completely different person. I never realized how insecure and down on myself I really was back then.
By increasing my sense of self-worth, I found the confidence to make huge changes to every aspect of my life. The big changes I’ve wanted to make for years but never had the courage to.
For one, I put myself out there to make friends and now I have more quality friends than ever before. I’m finally exploring new hobbies with a positive attitude, and that has made other positive people gravitate towards me.
I finally resigned from my job that was making me feel stressed, anxious and under appreciated, and found something that truly makes me happy.
My relationship with my husband has never been better. He even says I’ve got more of a boss attitude now, and he loves it! He likes my decisiveness, I think for a while he felt like he was carrying me around through life. God bless his soul, that man would go to the ends of the earth for me.
Most importantly, I’ve learned to love my aging body, I know there are things I can’t change, but I do my best to take care of myself now. Because I truly feel like I’m worth it!
How Much Is It?
It drives me nuts how much some companies charge for their products. I’ve seen workbooks go for over $60.. Weekend retreats can end up costing thousands of dollars, and one on one therapy can be hundreds of dollars per hour.
I was surprised to see that The Digital Self-Love Journal is only $19.99. You can tell they put the effort into creating a high quality product.
I’ve purchased 3-4 more copies to give to friends and family, dramatically transforming the way a person feels about themselves makes for a really amazing gift!
If you can resonate with how any of this feels, the self-doubt, the lack of motivation, the insecurities, the poor relationships, give this a shot. No matter your age, gender, or career type, if you get through all 91-days, I guarantee you’ll learn something about yourself and feel all the better for it!