How The Self-Love Journal Transformed My Life

I can remember the exact day I first looked in the mirror and thought, “gosh, you look old.”

I haven't had any work done, and it shows... I can see the beginning lines form what will inevitably be deep wrinkles on my face...

When I was younger it was acne that plagued me... or my fluctuating weight...

Now it's a fear of the future...

I was starting to resent my aging body. When I'd have low energy... or I’d have trouble fitting into my pants, I felt anger stir up in me and a fear I never had before. It felt like I was losing control of myself and the fundamentals of who I was.

I never had much self-confidence to begin with, and aging definitely wasn’t helping…

As I got older I found myself starting to doubt my abilities more and more. Feeling like I was too old to make a change, or try something new.. 

When I was younger I used to be adventurous, I used to take chances and never think twice about what others would think of me… I believed in myself and I was my own cheerleader.

“Change the way you think, and you’ll change the way you feel”

If you don’t love yourself, where does the motivation come from to take care of yourself?

This is why I didn’t keep up with exercising, or eating the way I was supposed to. In my mind, I was so far from “loveable” already, what does it matter if every meal was a “cheat meal”, or if I couldn’t remember the last time I did something active.

Then, on an airplane, before all this craziness we’re dealing with now…I read an article about the impact of positive thoughts on our health. 

"Increased life span
Lower rates of depression
Lower levels of distress
Greater resistance to the common cold
Better psychological and physical well-being
Better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress”
-Mayo Clinic

I burst into tears.. I was on my way to bury my aunt, and something clicked.. I wasn’t extremely sad about her passing, but it occurred to me that she definitely wasn’t a positive person and she wasn’t very healthy. In that moment I started to see how my current path in life could lead me to become her, and that made me want to jump out of my seat.

I realized in that moment that I wasn’t treating myself the way I deserved to be treated. I needed to make a change, I didn’t know where to start, and I needed some help.

A few weeks later I came across the Self-Love Journal by Switch, and I can honestly say -- it transformed my life.

Now let me tell you…There are over 10,000 products out there that will show you how to “get your dream life” through the “power of visualization”...Discovering the Self-Love Journal was like finding a needle in a haystack. Here’s why I gravitated towards it:

Negative thought habits take years to form, and they don’t change overnight. The Self-Love Journal is a 91-day workbook for that reason, while it only takes 5-10 minutes a day, the consistency of learning and practice over 91-days is what remaps your brain, and fosters a lasting impact.

The Journal is divided into 3 distinct sections, Self-Kindness, Gratitude, and Compassion. Each day you’ll be provided with a lesson that will help you better understand how your mind works, so that you can take control of it. Next, you’ll be asked to either reflect on a specific question, or an activity to perform that day.

The Self-Love Journal is one of the only options I could find that is grounded in science, I wasn’t interested in opening chakras, chanting, or visualizing colors. I wanted a scientific solution that would help me uproot my negative thought patterns and teach me how to deal with them.

When I found out that this journal is being studied by multiple universities in Canada to understand it’s impact on a person's sense of self-worth, I felt confident that the lessons would be effective.

It’s been just over a year since I completed my 91-day Self-Love Journal...I still look through it every now and again and I’m astonished at how I used to think, some of my earlier answers seem like a completely different person. I never realized how insecure and down on myself I really was back then.

By increasing my sense of self-worth, I found the confidence to make huge changes to every aspect of my life. The big changes I’ve wanted to make for years but never had the courage to.

For one, I put myself out there to make friends and now I have more quality friends than ever before. I’m finally exploring new hobbies with a positive attitude, and that has made other positive people gravitate towards me.

I finally resigned from my job that was making me feel stressed, anxious and under appreciated, and found something that truly makes me happy.

My relationship with my husband has never been better. He even says I’ve got more of a boss attitude now, and he loves it! He likes my decisiveness, I think for a while he felt like he was carrying me around through life. God bless his soul, that man would go to the ends of the earth for me.

Most importantly, I’ve learned to love my aging body, I know there are things I can’t change, but I do my best to take care of myself now. Because I truly feel like I’m worth it!

How Much Is It?

It drives me nuts how much some companies charge for their products. I’ve seen workbooks go for over $60.. Weekend retreats can end up costing thousands of dollars, and one on one therapy can be hundreds of dollars per hour.

I was surprised to see that The Self-Love Journal is only $39.95. You can tell they put the effort into creating a high quality product.

I’ve purchased 3-4 more copies to give to friends and family, dramatically transforming the way a person feels about themselves makes for a really amazing gift!

If you can resonate with how any of this feels, the self-doubt, the lack of motivation, the insecurities, the poor relationships, give this a shot. No matter your age, gender, or career type, if you get through all 91-days, I guarantee you’ll learn something about yourself and feel all the better for it! 

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Our original and best-selling journal is your key to improving your relationship with yourself.

The Self-Love journal will equip you with the tools and strategies needed to shift your brain from a state of self-judgement and turbulence to a healthier mindset of compassion and positive self-talk.

This journal is suitable for both men and women and can be used during any 90-day period of the year. 

“I lived my entire life with ZERO self confidence. I would doubt my choices, fear what others thought about me and was afraid to be seen. This journal changed everything!!!! Now I walk into a room with confidence, speak up and know exactly what I want— and it only took 5 minutes a day to get here.” -Isa L.

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    Customer Reviews

    Based on 327 reviews
    Elizabeth B. (Saint Paul, US)

    I found this through an ad. I enjoy working through the prompts and will continue to try my best to use this journal to be better. I still struggle with mental health and with the combination of journals like this and help from doctors, I hope to help myself work through my issues and demons.

    Kaylinn M. (Jacksonville, US)

    Last year I started focusing more on my mental health.
    I noticed a simple & effective pattern —
    When I put myself first, I’m a better me for my daughter, friends, and family.

    As the wise old saying goes, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
    Why can’t this be true for mothers too?
    We spend everyday caring for our little humans that sometimes we forget to care for ourselves in the midst of the chaos.

    Switch Research is dedicated to offering affordable mental health resources for all! Including self-love, as they have worked along side psychologists, clinical therapists, and psychiatrists to deliver a 13-week journal with daily prompts to help reframe my thoughts and to be more mindful with how I speak to myself.

    Ila S. (New Delhi, IN)
    Self love is the way forward...

    Really happy to work on self love journal as usually we are taught that love is something that you receive from parents, siblings, partners etc. However, loving SELF in indian society is considered as selfish. To be able to break the chain of thought patterns is what is required. Thanks a lot for guiding and providing the valuable insights on daily basis that is able to clear certain self doubts so as to embrace self completely...just as I am.. Grateful 🙏

    MARGARET E.L. (Watertown, US)
    I’m loving this journal!

    I bought the print journal for my niece who is struggling with self-loathing over a significant weight gain (pandemic pounds). I experienced the same self-loathing for the same reason, and it was absolutely why I struggled to get back into a healthier lifestyle. The self-loathing delayed attending to a problem. When I read the Switch website and realized the journal was research-based I ordered it for my niece. When it arrived, I looked it over, and decided it was something that, even though I had stumbled upon getting back on track, I knew my success would only be temporary if I didn’t address the underlying negative thinking. When I realized there was an electronic version of the journal I ordered it for myself. At this point, I’m at day 23, and I’ve made it through the holiday excesses without succumbing to my old ways. I did a fair share of indulging with my many family events, but not once did I fall victim to dwelling on failures. At all times I felt positive about my journey. My niece is working on it, just since New Years Day, and I have talked about it with a few friends. Admittedly, I’m retired, so my mornings are rarely a time to rush, and I’ve easily incorporated journaling into my morning routine of self-care.

    Terri m. (Portland, US)
    So Relevant

    I’m loving the Switch Self Live Journal. It’s exactly what I needed with simple step by step daily pages to reflect m current feelings about myself. If you are experiencing a rough time in your life and want to realize your strength and worth, this is the perfect journal to use!

    Teresa H. (Philadelphia, US)
    Heard about it through a client!

    I am an LCSW psychotherapist, and I've recommended self love and self compassion journals and workbooks often. Yours was found by a client of mine who told me about it. I wanted to get it myself to look it over. It seems like a wonderful resource.

    Connie S. (Deerfield, US)
    Self-Love Journal

    It’s fun to turn to something daily that brings you joy about yourself and helps you to reflect upon ways to help bring your life more enjoyment and make you a richer person for yourself and others.

    Lisa T. (Brandon, US)
    New to Switch

    Ready to love myself!

    Laura B. (Loxahatchee Groves, US)
    Excellent journal

    I will be starting it today since we are in a new year. Looking forward to getting started. Thank you

    B.F. (Portland, US)

    First week has been great🙂