I Was Scared To Be Myself, This Journal Truly Changed My Life

I’ve always been critical of myself, but I thought everyone else was the same.

I thought everyone got out of bed, looked in the mirror, and noticed all their flaws. To me, it was totally normal.

Even throughout the rest of the day, I would spend my time thinking about what I could have done differently.

For example, working out in the gym was a big focus. I’d go at least four times a week and spend about 30 minutes there.

Then, I’d get home and have a look online for what workout I’d do tomorrow.

But if I missed a single day, I’d beat myself up.

Why couldn’t I be that girl?

Why couldn’t I work out for an hour, every single day?

It was the same with food. I’d be furious at myself for indulging in a bag of chips or ordering a dessert. But it was a vicious cycle. The angrier I was at myself, the more I comforted myself with unhealthy foods.

Then I’d wake up the following day, look at myself in the mirror, and it would all start again.

I honestly thought everyone did it. My friends definitely did.

They would chat about cellulite, their slumped shoulders, or their bad skin. We’d all take it in turns to bash ourselves, freaking out over something that wasn’t perfect.

And it wasn’t just our bodies.

We’d talk about how other people seemed to be doing so much better at work. We’d kick ourselves if we were passed over for a promotion. I remember scoring 80% on a performance test at work once and being furious that I hadn’t aced it.

But it was normal. We all did it. It was part of being human, right?

I guess that’s the thing: Until someone shows you that actually, it’s possible to be content and happy with who you are, you think it’s normal to self-loathe.

I got up one morning, looked in the mirror, and burst into tears.

For some reason, that day, I realized how unfair I was being.

Imagine waking up, finding your best friend, and telling them all of their flaws! Every single day! That’s what I was doing to myself.

I knew something had to change. But how? It seemed like an impossible hill.

I started Googling self-love and I saw that there was so much information out there. Lots of celebrities were talking about how important it was to embrace yourself. But I just couldn’t figure it out!

Eventually, I chatted to my friends about it. It felt like we had all breathed a sigh of relief.

‘You feel that way too?’ one friend asked. ‘I’ve wanted to like myself for so long, but I just don’t know how to do it. I feel like I’m always so critical of myself.’

We were all lost.

We made a deal that the next time we met for coffee, we’d each come with an idea of how to improve our confidence and self-esteem.

The following week, we all had so many ideas. First, we tried writing down positive things about ourselves. But that just felt forced and awkward.

Someone else suggested therapy, but we couldn’t all afford it.

Then one of my friends found this journal. It was called the Self-Love Journal, it seemed to fit with what we were after!

We all agreed to do this journal together. We ordered them online and each promised to spend 10 minutes every day writing in it. Then, we’d chat about the prompts at our meet-ups.

But I’ll be honest; I was skeptical. I’ve never been a journal fan and always feel like I don’t know what to write.

Thankfully, my friend had found one that had prompts included. The prompts were easy to respond to, but they made you think and question your negative thoughts.

Plus, the prompts were all ordered very carefully so that it felt as if I were on a journey, going step-by-step.

When our first meet-up came, I couldn’t wait to find out how the girls were getting on. We were all on the same page of the journal, but some felt better than others.

For me, I had noticed that I was recognizing when I was being self-critical. I couldn’t completely change overnight, but we were only one week in!

But within three weeks, things had shifted.

I was speaking to myself more kindly. I understood the reasons behind my negative thoughts and I was able to use really helpful tools to reframe my thoughts.

It was incredible.

Sure, I was still having problems some mornings, but things were already so much better.

At this point, I should probably confess, I hadn’t really researched the journal when my friend suggested it! I just ordered one and got started!

Three weeks in, I was so impressed that I had to find out more.

It turns out that these journals are actually created with therapists using their expert tools and techniques!

So it’s like getting a shot of therapy each morning in your journal. No wonder they work!

The girls were all feeling the same. We absolutely loved writing in them, and it was so refreshing to see ourselves in this new light.

Fast forward to today. I’m writing this on the last day of the journal, and I’m finding it hard to put into words just how fantastic the experience has been.

I don’t look at myself in that cruel, angry way anymore. I celebrate who I am. I’m compassionate when I make mistakes. I treat myself with the same kindness with which I treat my friends.

I’m an entirely different person from the girl who burst into tears looking at herself three months ago.

Like anyone, I have tough days, but now I have the tools to deal with them.

I feel well-equipped to continue without the journal, but I’ve decided to order another because it has become the highlight of my day.

Amazing, isn’t it?

The morning used to be the moment I dreaded each day. Now, I look forward to it as the time for celebrating myself and loving who I am.

Get your own Self-Love Journal and start your journey today.

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Hardcover Self-Love Journal

$38.00

Our original and best-selling journal is your key to improving your relationship with yourself.

The Self-Love journal will equip you with the tools and strategies needed to shift your brain from a state of self-judgement and turbulence to a healthier mindset of compassion and positive self-talk.

This journal is suitable for both men and women and can be used during any 90-day period of the year. 

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“I lived my entire life with ZERO self confidence. I would doubt my choices, fear what others thought about me and was afraid to be seen. This journal changed everything!!!! Now I walk into a room with confidence, speak up and know exactly what I want— and it only took 5 minutes a day to get here.” -Isa L.

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    Hardcover Self-Love Journal
    Hardcover Self-Love Journal
    Hardcover Self-Love Journal
    Hardcover Self-Love Journal
    Hardcover Self-Love Journal
    Hardcover Self-Love Journal
    Hardcover Self-Love Journal
    Hardcover Self-Love Journal
    Hardcover Self-Love Journal

    Hardcover Self-Love Journal

    $38.00

    Our original and best-selling journal is your key to improving your relationship with yourself.

    The Self-Love journal will equip you with the tools and strategies needed to shift your brain from a state of self-judgement and turbulence to a healthier mindset of compassion and positive self-talk.

    This journal is suitable for both men and women and can be used during any 90-day period of the year. 

    ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
    “I lived my entire life with ZERO self confidence. I would doubt my choices, fear what others thought about me and was afraid to be seen. This journal changed everything!!!! Now I walk into a room with confidence, speak up and know exactly what I want— and it only took 5 minutes a day to get here.” -Isa L.

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      Elizabeth B. (Saint Paul, US)
      Great!

      I found this through an ad. I enjoy working through the prompts and will continue to try my best to use this journal to be better. I still struggle with mental health and with the combination of journals like this and help from doctors, I hope to help myself work through my issues and demons.

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      Kaylinn M. (Jacksonville, US)
      Amazing!

      Last year I started focusing more on my mental health.
      I noticed a simple & effective pattern —
      When I put myself first, I’m a better me for my daughter, friends, and family.

      As the wise old saying goes, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
      Why can’t this be true for mothers too?
      We spend everyday caring for our little humans that sometimes we forget to care for ourselves in the midst of the chaos.

      Switch Research is dedicated to offering affordable mental health resources for all! Including self-love, as they have worked along side psychologists, clinical therapists, and psychiatrists to deliver a 13-week journal with daily prompts to help reframe my thoughts and to be more mindful with how I speak to myself.

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      Ila S. (New Delhi, IN)
      Self love is the way forward...

      Really happy to work on self love journal as usually we are taught that love is something that you receive from parents, siblings, partners etc. However, loving SELF in indian society is considered as selfish. To be able to break the chain of thought patterns is what is required. Thanks a lot for guiding and providing the valuable insights on daily basis that is able to clear certain self doubts so as to embrace self completely...just as I am.. Grateful 🙏

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      MARGARET E.L. (Watertown, US)
      I’m loving this journal!

      I bought the print journal for my niece who is struggling with self-loathing over a significant weight gain (pandemic pounds). I experienced the same self-loathing for the same reason, and it was absolutely why I struggled to get back into a healthier lifestyle. The self-loathing delayed attending to a problem. When I read the Switch website and realized the journal was research-based I ordered it for my niece. When it arrived, I looked it over, and decided it was something that, even though I had stumbled upon getting back on track, I knew my success would only be temporary if I didn’t address the underlying negative thinking. When I realized there was an electronic version of the journal I ordered it for myself. At this point, I’m at day 23, and I’ve made it through the holiday excesses without succumbing to my old ways. I did a fair share of indulging with my many family events, but not once did I fall victim to dwelling on failures. At all times I felt positive about my journey. My niece is working on it, just since New Years Day, and I have talked about it with a few friends. Admittedly, I’m retired, so my mornings are rarely a time to rush, and I’ve easily incorporated journaling into my morning routine of self-care.

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      Terri m. (Portland, US)
      So Relevant

      I’m loving the Switch Self Live Journal. It’s exactly what I needed with simple step by step daily pages to reflect m current feelings about myself. If you are experiencing a rough time in your life and want to realize your strength and worth, this is the perfect journal to use!

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      Teresa H. (Philadelphia, US)
      Heard about it through a client!

      I am an LCSW psychotherapist, and I've recommended self love and self compassion journals and workbooks often. Yours was found by a client of mine who told me about it. I wanted to get it myself to look it over. It seems like a wonderful resource.

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      Connie S. (Deerfield, US)
      Self-Love Journal

      It’s fun to turn to something daily that brings you joy about yourself and helps you to reflect upon ways to help bring your life more enjoyment and make you a richer person for yourself and others.

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      Lisa T. (Brandon, US)
      New to Switch

      Ready to love myself!

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      Laura B. (Loxahatchee Groves, US)
      Excellent journal

      I will be starting it today since we are in a new year. Looking forward to getting started. Thank you

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      B.F. (Portland, US)
      Amazing!

      First week has been great🙂